Posts Tagged ‘attitude’

Causes Of Behavior Problems In Children And Adults

Saturday, June 4th, 2011

Often people want more information on child behavior, thus we decided to write this article. Hopefully you will find it useful.

Behavior problems is often exhibited by both children and adults. It may start early and can happen even to young children. They would display unruly, rude behavior and may even throw frequent tantrums. Meanwhile, adults may still show behavior problems which can deeply affect their social interactions.

How could you identify if a child is already showing signs of problems? If a child is behaving out of his normal behavior and would make serious offences even though they understand the rules at home, school or community, you could begin wondering if it’s just a part of being rebellious because of their age. If s/he continues to show the behavior even after a couple of months, then it may be more that curiosity and mischief.

For adults, most of the behavior problems are caused by medical and psychological disorders, like dementia, adult ADHD, or anti-social personality disorder. For treatment, several cases would require medications prescribed by physicians or mental health professionals. Therapy is the most common means of addressing behavioral disorders. There can be serious effects on the social relationship of the person with behavioral issue. They have difficulties in maintaining relationships like making new friends or getting into a commitment. But what causes these problems? There are different possible causes of behavior problems, here are a few possible causes.

• Grief over a loss of something or somebody important. Death of a parent, member of the family, good friend or loss of house and property are something which could cause someone to feel frustrated, angry, insecure and be afraid. There are children who would not show immediate reaction to loss, but would eventually develop agitated attitude as an outlet of their emotions. In these cases, they require reassurance, security and comfort.

• Medical conditions. Pain, discomfort, poor memory, memory loss, and loss of verbal and even physical skills could lead to development of behavior problems. Medications could perhaps lead to a change in attitude as a side-effect. If caregivers, family members would neglect to address pain and discomfort, it could possibly result into restlessness, frustration and aggression. It is important to observe them to check out signs which could help caregivers ease their distress and pain.

• Psychiatric conditions. Individuals with existing psychiatric problems like schizophrenia or depression have tendencies to be agitated and aggressive. Work closely with your physician about medications. Aside from medication, reassurance and encouragement could also help them.

Another possible reason might possibly be exposure to television. The American Academy of Pediatrics discourages children under two years old to view television for more than a couple of hours a day. A report published in Pediatrics, indicated that those who watch more than two hours of television a day from ages 2 ½ until 5 ½ are more likely to develop problems in sleeping, attention and can even become aggressive. The environment generally speaking has significant influence on our behavior. Major social like the school could influence on how we act and relate to others. What goes on in community contributes into the individual’s growth and development.

It is likely to develop behavior problems if we are continuously exposed to poverty, neglect, stress, inconsistent expectations, confusion, and abuse. For example, there are a few kids of divorced parents who would also show problems in committing into relationships once they grew up. Since collective pressure and social issues can result into behavior problems, it is very important to overcome it collectively, too. It’s important for family, friends and teachers to reassure and help individuals who have problems face the difficulties and overcome them.

Three Out Of Four Ain’t Bad

Sunday, June 20th, 2010

When we moved into a new neighborhood, I was pleased to find new friends almost immediately. Our new home and neighborhood are wonderful. It seemed like a very friendly community. Jen is down the block, Marcia is next door, and Lisa is around the corner. I was invited to join them for morning coffee during my first week there.

Our kids and dogs seem to get along fine. Our friendship seems to be based on that. We take our pups out for morning walks together. We have play dates for for our kids. Why did I ever offer to sell them products from herbalifeline?

Things became annoying after that. All my new friends gave me an order for cleaning products. Lisa bought shampoo and conditioner and toothpaste. Marcia ordered lipstick and blush in addition cleaning compounds.

I use the cleaning products myself and do like them. Marcia hated them. They didn’t get rid of soap scum as well as her usual product. They didn’t get the black marks off her linoleum. They didn’t even clean her dishes adequately. I offered her money back but she said she couldn’t do that to a good friend.

OMG, how I wish she would. She continued to gripe until the bottles were empty. Then after apologizing, she bought her old brands. I was not going to see my family starve because of her lack of ordering so that was fine.

Often, after our morning coffee gathering, I feel like putting on my black helmet and riding to some remote spot and screaming a primal scream. One day I mentioned it and OMG, she was going to ride out with me. End of that idea.

The other two friends could barely keep a straight face. I would have loved to take my schwinn mountain bike out for a ride with them. But I wasn’t willing to with Marcia. I would wait and ride with my kids after school.

But, when it comes to Lisa, I can barely get through our morning coffee break without being frustrated. I even find myself reaching for another doughnut after a chat with her. Her kids are perfect (ours are not). Her husband is a prince (a prince who is nagged constantly) and of course, her dog is a purebred.

The final consensus in this situation is that I love our new home and most of our neighbors. I consider my own kids and dog to be the best of the bunch. I refrain from bragging about them though. I also do not belittle anyone else’s kids by acting superior.

She Did Not Want To Go To The Mall

Sunday, June 20th, 2010

This was going to be a long shopping trip. First she grumbled about having to carry a tote bag. She finished the grumbling by saying she wasn’t interested in buying any school clothes.

Five years from now she would begin to enjoy a trip to the shopping mall. She would want to go through every single store. She would almost be ready for a charge card of her own.

Today, shopping was not her first choice. She was not yet interested in fashion. She would rather stay home and play in the sand in the back yard. She did need school clothes though, so off we went. She didn’t even want to carry anything.

I reminded the little tyke that we were buying her school clothes after all. Why shouldn’t she help carry some of them? She was about to say that unacceptable phrase, whatever, but stopped herself in time.

Well can we at least go for ice cream after we pick out ugly clothes, she wanted to know. She thought she had enough clothes. She made a remark that was very unexpected. She said she wanted to eat ice cream and let it drip on the brown boot on her left foot.

I had to laugh at that remark. Wondering what she might be thinking, I asked her why. In wonder why she wanted it to drip only on the left foot. What an imagination she had. I smiled to myself.

The reason was she didn’t like her left foot, she only liked her right foot. She was mad and hated her left foot.

Having no plausible answer for such a silly statement I handed her a bag to carry. Off we went to the mall. First we bought jeans in blue and black and a pair of white shorts that were on sale. Next we looked at sweaters.

She said she liked the jeans. She said it was too hot to buy a sweater though. I had to agree it was hard to think of wearing sweaters when the outside temperature was 80 degrees.

Finally we agreed on two sweaters and two blouses. Then we bought some socks and tights. Then we moved on to the shoe department.

There was a particular pair of women’s brown boots on display that she liked a lot. I told her they didn’t come in her size but we could look for some similar ones made for girls. She stubbornly said those were the only ones she would wear. I told her she’d have to wait till she grew bigger to fit into them.

I braced myself for an argument. She surprised me with a sweet smile and didn’t voice any more complaints that day. She thought it over and decided she could live without those boots.

I smiled happily because she didn’t complain any more. Now she was ready to go for her ice cream cone. She talked about school and said she liked her new clothes. She even helped me carry the bags home. As we headed for ice cream we discussed what flavor to order. She wanted vanilla with sprinkles and I wanted rocky road.